I recently heard a phrase spoken in conversation, from a young man who was a gang member, and confessed murderer by the age of sixteen, who stated after reflecting upon his own life, the soil affects the seed. He has since become a multi-degreed college graduate and author, who is using his life’s experiences to rectify and amend for his many past wrongs to himself, and society. My imagination began making different analogies regarding synonyms and anonyms for the word soil, and how that could relate to us, as humans today.
We as a people and as parents or caregivers must be aware and value our role in developing these precious little seeds, our children, which we have produced, nurtured and loved! If the seeds have been embedded into rich and healthy soil, then their chances of survival into a strong and healthy person will more likely be assured. We must be aware and remember that children are nourished by what they eat, see, feel and hear!
After we, as parents and caregivers have instilled our best knowledge, love, interest and nurturing into our children, they must eventually leave our tender care, and enter into a reality which may treat them totally different, than when they were solely within our controlled environment and influence. This most difficult part of parenting is unavoidable, but totally necessary if we are to raise a healthy, well adjusted child who is of value to themselves, their family and society in general. That difficult task becomes a reality, when we a forced to relinquish our children to the uncertainties of society. We are fearful and pray for their safety when they must depart from us, for our efforts could either be depleted, erased, or enriched!
If the soil, the home and parental influence, through whatever reason, is depleted soil, lacking in nutrients, necessary tools for healthy child rearing, the child or children may, in cases of severe and obvious neglect or sincere inability, be removed from that soil, either temporarily or permanently, and transplanted to richer soil or an alternate intervention of fertilizing in home or in place, in lieu of removal. Some parents can be mentored into an active, engaged and educated pursuance of parenthood, through being tutored by the wise example of some interested parties or organizations. We should never give up on someone who is trying and motivated!
This topic is universal, far reaching, and affects us all. Our seed, our child, comes here to earth totally innocent and blemish free. Any imperfections, in uterus, perceived by us, are not to be defined or determined by us, for we, are as human and often as fragile as our little newborn. Many parents and adults today are suffering from some area of arrested development!!
The young man I mentioned earlier, was not born into a family whose soil was rich and fertile, so he sought to transplant himself into a more cohesive one that of gang life, which proved to be so detrimental to his development, that he committed murder at age sixteen. Mario was charged and convicted as an adult, spending three years in solitary before age twenty two. He served nineteen years in sixteen different adult prisons, being kicked out of nine prisons and classified as incorrigible.
Eventually, through the maturation process and his parents nurturing, he found his purpose, to help others avoid a life of crime through education and self improvement. He was released from prison in 2014, and graduated Wayne State in 2016, he later authored a book about his life and formed his non-profit corporation, Luck Inc., through which he employs certified, formerly incarcerated men, to train and mentor at risk youth and returning citizens to society in an attempt to safeguard as well as enrich the community. He is host of the television show Main Street, and is a dynamic, intelligent and engaged credit to the Detroit community.
The memory will always linger on
By Evangelist Barbara Colbert
Writing about my mother for Mother’s Day, would normally be a cake-walk. Actually, I generally have a more difficult time, not writing about my mother. But that was when she was only a telephone call away. Or a road trip east - destination: Home - to see my Mom. However, now she is gone on to glory. Only four short months ago, and the memory not only lingers on, it still brings tears to my heart. Yet, I will give honor will honor is due, for my mother earned every one of the jewels in her starry crown.
My mother was born in Philadelphia on November 15, 1931, during the Great Depression. In 1940, she was sent to Detroit, MI and was raised by her uncle and aunt. She was an alumni of Miller High School and walked the hallways of that legendary school with former Detroit mayor, Coleman A. Young; Sydney Diggs, one of the first Black Senators in Washington; actress, Della Reese and; graduated with well-known jazz guitarist, Kenneth Burrell. My mother was one of many Black Bottom entertainers, and traveled with local bands and various vocal groups, singing the blues with the best of the best. In 1950, she returned to Philadelphia and began her journey of life, traveling roads sometimes rocky, lonely and riddled with disappointments. Yet her spirit soared on, empowered by her faith in the Lord, she never looked back, entertained no regrets.
My mother possessed a passion for life, empathizing with the injustices of humanity, from the poor and needy, to the discriminated and castaways of society. She marched with the late Dr. Martin Luther King, and joined in civil rights movements with the NAACP, and the Southern Christian Leadership Conference. She raised her four daughters to be strong, independent and graceful Black women, and to reflect a spirit of honor and respect, not only for themselves, but for all others, irrespective of their race, creed, or color. Yet, I came to understand very early in life, that my mother’s deepest compassion was for young unwed mothers. She provided a "safe haven" for many she met struggling along the way, providing shelter and words of encouragement, absent of judgment or conviction.
For all my life, I saw my mother as unstoppable, a force to be reckoned with. All that she did, in some way or another, was to help her fellow man. For many years, she worked as a legal secretary in the business world, and the proprietor of a bar and nightclub in West Philly. She maintained an energetic and progressive social life and enjoyed opening our home to friends and family from all walks of life. She taught us to be gracious hostesses and to forsake not the priceless practice of love and compassion.
After 86 years, Ernestine Barbara Glenn Marshall departed this old world on New Year’s Day. As such, for me, every New Year’s Day hereon, will be a day of fond memory and recollection reserved especially for my mother.
So, I see that writing this was not so painful after all, for my mother’s legacy will live on in my heart for all the days of my life. And perhaps if I’m good - very very good - I will grow up to be just like her and I too will become a legend in my own time, just as she. Yes, the words came easy, because loving you was easy, Mom and so your memory will always and forever linger on.
Embracing the Goddess Within
By Goddes Godis, AKA Adonnis
What every mother wants is the best for her children. She wants them to have the best that life has to offer, she also wants them to be the best person that they can be. Our children are our greatest contribution to the world.
Delilah Elamin-Sims who is also known as Goddess Sahaja is a loving, nurturing and devoted mother of two beautiful daughters, Aneesa and Amirah.
She loves to cook and create vegetarian means for her family and for those seeking to change their diet. She loves being in nature and Gardening. She is looking forward to one day writing Books on healing the mind, body and spirit.
Goddess Shahaja is committed to nurturing the spiritual growth of her daughters. She scheduled a goddess photo shoot with me for her and her daughters, because as she stated to me she wanted them to celebrate and visually connect with their goddess self. She felt that a spiritual portrait would inspire them to continue to grow spiritually and to become the goddesses that they came here to be.
Goddess Sahaja also shared with me how she often reminds her daughters to only put out what they want to get back. Be loving and kind to everyone and that everything happens for a reason and to see the divinity in all things.
Aneesa and Amirah are not only physically beautiful, they are spiritually beautiful. You can see in them the fruit of their mother’s labor. She has implanted in them a love for themselves and God and an awareness of their highest self.
GODIS is a Detroit spiritual artist who is dedicated to using her gifts as a writer, garment designer, photographer and motivational speaker to inspire women to embrace the goddess within them. She helps them to become the women that God created them to be - a woman of great spiritual beauty, wisdom and creative power. GODIS is the author of the BOOK OF WISDOM. To contact her e-mail; goddessgodis @ gmail.com.