At various times in your life you will come upon moments when you are confused or frustrated about a situation, which could be about finances, relationships or maybe even employment. You try to do everything that you know to do, but for some reason a resolution seems to elude you. Most of us rely on our own understanding, which will usually keep us on an emotional merry-go-round. Mental confusion for the most part is experienced when immediately faced with decisions, however, there are several other causes that should also be considered which are listed below, followed by some suggestions towards a harmonious resolution:
1) Consuming processed foods such as fast foods, white sugar, white flour, soda pop, junk foods, milk and processed foods and cheeses.
Suggestions: consume fresh raw and freshly juiced fruits and vegetables (there is a saying about eating live foods, “From Life, Comes Life”), drink plenty of alkaline water, use honey, stevia or unprocessed sweeteners, hemp, almond or rice milk, vegan or vegetarian cheese and sprouted or whole/multi-grain breads.
2) Lack of sleep, exercise, fresh air and sunlight, all of which in insufficient amounts may inhibit proper functioning of the body and the mind.
Suggestions: get plenty of rest to allow the body to regenerate and heal itself. Daily exercise and breathing fresh air will increase the oxygen levels to the brain. Adequate amounts of sunlight will stimulate the pineal gland, which is a master gland (the producer or melatonin), and is responsible for the manufacturing of various chemicals and proteins, which are essential for proper body function.
3) Consuming medications (over-the-counter and prescription), alcohol, marijuana and other drugs, could negatively affect the thought process.
Suggestions: herbs, homeopathic and Bach flower remedies, herbal teas and alternative healing modalities (i.e. Reiki, massage, Emotional Freedom Techniques also known as “EFT” or “Tapping”, colonics, acupuncture, meditation etc.) can be looked at instead of over-the-counter medicines, and also to develop a new health regiment. Drugs and the excessive use of alcohol have been used as an emotional and mental "escape" mechanism and is only a temporary and non-effective “fix” because the problem is still there when the high is gone. Instead seeking counseling or therapy finding or starting a support group, or talking to your pastor or spiritual leader could assist in resolving problematic issues.
4) Lack of focus on a specific goal inhibits clear decision making.
Suggestions: identify and clearly define the goals (long term and short term) that you want to achieve, once they are defined, list the steps necessary to achieve those goals. Make sure that the goals are realistic and attainable. For instance, if you have a project to do for work or school, divide the project into phases and only do one phase a day, or if you have to clean your desk or work area, maybe only clean ¼ of it a day. If it is your room that you have to clean, mentally section the room off and only clean one section a day, maybe the closet today and the dresser drawers tomorrow. Another method that is helpful is a "Things to Do" list with deadlines, which also promotes mental discipline and creates order.
5) Stress is a major factor in mental confusion, which can be caused by pressures on the job, financial problems, relationship or health issues.
Suggestions: reading books or listening to tapes on spirituality is also extremely helpful in reducing stress as well as learning relaxation techniques such as yoga, Tai Chi and Chi Gong. Learning to still the mind through meditation and also learning deep breathing techniques will help to relieve stress almost immediately. Taking an evaluation of the conditions that are the cause of the stress, and then determining what it would take to bring the situation into balance is also key.
Unfortunately prayer and meditation are generally one of the last considerations during mental uncertainties, when they should be the first. The answers to any questions that one might ever have can be found within. The questions can be asked during prayer, which is when we talk to God. And the answers come during the stillness of the mind as in meditation, which is when we listen to God. The answers can also come in various other ways, however, they might not come in the same form all of the time, such as, in a passage in a book, something that someone says, a commercial or an epiphany.
When experiencing mental confusion, do you rely on your own understanding or do you place your problem before God? If we pray, meditate and go deep within ourselves and listen for the soft still voice of the Spirit of God within us, the answer will come. The answer generally will be short, to the point, profound and sometimes so simplistic that you might wonder "Why didn't I think of that?"
Ma’at Seba is a motivational speaker and writer. Email her at Maatseba@yahoo.com. or call (313) 861-1118.
Mom on the Rebound
By D. L. Gibson
SUN LIFESTYLE COLUMNIST
I was about to set it off in the hospital lobby. We were at the right place, because emergency medical services would be needed when I got through with the drag queen.
Security could sense that something was about to go down. Two big guards ran up and got between us.
How dare this fake wannabe woman insult me and say that I must have been doing something wrong to drive my ex-husband Chris into their arms. Then, all of a sudden, I had a reality check.
Maybe, the Lord is trying to tell me something. They did have something that I lacked – male genitalia. I was blessed with a nice figure even after giving birth to a 9 pound baby. And, I kept myself up. So, if Chris was going to leave me for someone, it certainly wouldn’t be another woman. But, who was she/he to point this out?
Pride got the best of me. I didn’t want to give in and admit, “Yea you’re right.” So like the diva I am, I gave them a full look at all of my lusciousness. Like a runway model, I sashayed in front of them all. “You wish you had all of this,” I said. “It’s all natural.” I dragged out the word natural so that it sounded like a 30 syllable word.
Sister girl joined me in the runway walk. We looked like two fools strutting around the lobby. Bishop stood on the side watching with a grin on his face. Then, a couple of people that was waiting in the lobby heckled us saying, “You go girl!” And, we did. We went up and down one row of seats and into another, showing off our fit bodies. Whoever said you can’t look good at 50 lied, because we were the proof in the pudding.
Miss Fruitcake rolled her eyes at us, as if she was too through with us. “Say something. I dare you,” urged Sister Girl. “You don’t want none of this. We’re east side Christians, and we don’t play that. We’ll beat you down, and then will pray to the Lord for your recovery.”
Bishop laughed and shook his head. Then, Miss Fruitcake twisted her nose and said, “It must be jelly cause jam don’t shake like that. I recommend you do a few squats to tone up.”
Before I could respond, Sister Girl broke formation and walked over to the queen. She snatched the wig off her head, and said, “I recommend you call Lady Blue at the Weave Factory to hook up your hair. Those split ends look terrible and that wig is hideous. Real women don’t come out in public looking like that!”
I piggybacked on her comment and shouted out, “She ain’t a real woman.” And, the folks in the lobby yelled out, “Amen!”
Upset over the applause we were receiving, Miss Fruitcake pushed Sister Girl. Security quickly grabbed Sister Girl’s hand, before she could land a blow. Another guard grabbed Miss Fruitcake and then radioed for back up. Miss Fruitcake was bigger than the poor guard.
I started praying in my mind, “Oh Lord…please don’t let them take up to jail. I’m too pretty for prison!”
Mom on the Rebound is based on actual events.
DPS track stars nominated
By Dr. John Telford
The recently-formed Detroit Public Schools Sports Zone, Inc., has stepped up to the plate and done what the DPS administration itself should have done long ago--it formed a DPS Sports Hall of Fame. After inducting me as one of its earliest members for my 1950s sprint clockings (see insert of 1957 WSU publicity photo), it named me to its Advisory Board as its chosen track & field historian in order that I might recommend fellow former DPS track stars for induction into the Hall. Inducted this past year at my recommendation were state-high-school-record-setting miler and Olympian Lou Scott of old Eastern High School and Arizona State; world-indoor-record-breaking quarter-miler Deon Hogan of old Kettering High and Kansas; and Olympic 200-meter champion Henry Carr, the late, great "Gray Ghost" of Northwestern High and Arizona State.
For the 2018 Class, I have now recommended my fellow former world-ranked quarter-milers, Darnell Hall of Pershing; Stan Vinson of old Chadsey and Eastern Michigan University; and Eliot Tabron of old Murray-Wright, Wayne State, and Michigan State. I've also nominated Olympic gold-medal sprinters Eddie Tolan of Cass Tech and U-M and Lorenzo Wright of old Miller and WSU; plus All-American 400-meter hurdler Randy Williams (old Cooley and Kentucky State); All-American quarter-miler Wendy Truvillion (Pershing and LSU); and half-miler and prominent long-distance-running coach, Detroit Track Old-Timers board member and Motor City Striders president Ed Kozloff, Ph.D.
In coming years, God willing, I also hope to recommend All-American 400-meter hurdler Willie Atterberry (old Eastern and MSU), world indoor 65-yard low hurdles record-breaker "Bullet Billy" Smith (Northwestern & WSU); city and state-record-breaking quarter-milers Cliff Hatcher (Central & WSU), Claude Tiller (old Cooley and U-M), George Wesson (Southeastern), Lorenzo Montgomery (Southeastern and U-M), Mike Holt (Ford & MSU), James Grace (Mumford & U-M), and John Lewis (old Northeastern and Detroit City College [now WSU]); state champion and NCAA All-American mile relayist Reggie Bradford (Pershing, Mackenzie, and U-M); city and state two-mile & cross-country champion Ken Howse (old Finney and the U. of Illinois); city and state half-mile champion Ron Phillips (Denby and the U. of Illinois); high jump, long-jump and triple-jump star "Jumping Johnny" Kline (old Northeastern & WSU--also a basketball All-American at Wayne); conference champion high-jumper & center on WSU's NCAA Sweet Sixteen basketball team George Brown (old Northeastern); Olympic decathlon medalist John K.. Doherty (Western, City College of Detroit and U-M); NCAA All-American high jumper Mark Smith, Ph.D. (Northwestern and WSU); multi-world-record-breaking hurdler Allan Tolmich (Central and Wayne); Dennis Holland (old Redford and WMU); world-record sprinter Elmer 'Buddy" Coleman (old Miller and Wayne); world-record relayist Aaron Gordon (old Miller and U-M); and many other old-time speedsters.
Per other recent columns also pertinent to DPS, I feel compelled to state that I still can't seem to get our new young DPS Superintendent to understand that without the Detroit-based QWK2LRN program which I have touted to him and to our new elected DPS Board repeatedly as well as in print and on the air, Detroit's public schools are doomed to fall prey to errant U.S. Education Secretary Betsy DeVos' misguided support of the unregulated charter schools. Should this tragic calamity strike our schools, the DPS Sports Zone would no longer have any extant referential entity from which to induct its membership, since under that predatory circumstance Detroit's public schools will CEASE TO EXIST. I'll be examining this very real nationwide threat to urban public education continually in print and over the air on WCHB AM1340 Saturday mornings at 9:30 and Monday evenings at 6:30. To join in these broadcasted discussions, the call-in number is 837-1340. My track & field nominees for the 2018 DPS Hall will also be subjects of pieces I'll be doing in the Michigan Chronicle, the Detroit Native Sun, on the air, and perhaps in the dailies as the September date for the 2018 induction draws near.
Recent DPS Superintendent John Telford was an All-America sprinter who went undefeated representing the U.S. team in Europe. Contact him at (313) 460-8272 or DrJohnTelfordEdD@aol.com. His website is www.AlifeontheRUN.com. Get his Detroit-oriented books at the Source Booksellers at 4240 Cass Ave., Barnes & Noble stores, or on www.amazon.com (type in Dr. John Telford). Friend him on Facebook.